Life was pretty much status quo until we moved out to Long Island. Setting up a home with a spouse who was gone 14 hours or more a day took most of my time. The hours he was at home other women my age were involved with PTA , coffee cloching and shopping. When he left for work and on a lot of holidays they were home with their spouses. This was life for almost fifteen more years. Naturally, I began to make an alter life.
I got involved in politics for several years. Being a Democrat and a Liberal there were not too many people who agreed with my views. But I worked hard for the ones that did. This did not endear me to the other cops my husband worked with or their dutiful wives.
I had made some female friends. These were all transplanted city people whose husbands were all civil service (the common thread) but I always felt like a fraud in their company. I didn’t care about PTA or shopping etc. My interests lie elsewhere always. Don’t get me wrong, these were all wonderful people. Most I cared for very much, but they didn’t understand who I was and I didn’t know how to explain who I was.