Valentine’s Day

17 Feb

Scan of a Valentine greeting card dated 1909.

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Now that Valentine’s Day is behind us I’ve had the opportunity to make quite a few    V-Day observations.  At one time I felt that Valentine’s Day was just for Sweethearts.  Surely that was when I was a romantic young thing, dreaming about the only boy for me.  It is that day, set apart, when Sweethearts were supposed to confess their love for one another.

Poets as far back as Chaucer declared it the day that lovers expressed their undying affection.  Since you weren’t able to think of the proper words yourself, he would pen them for you.  Somewhere between fourteen hundred and two thousand and twelve, Hallmark got into the mix.  Virtually millions of dollars are spent on these romantic, funny, musical, sincere, and sometimes tasteless declarations of our affection for those people we either call our own, or wish to call our own.

More than ever before, this year, I saw on television sitcoms, dramas and even the nightly news, reminders or threats to men of all ages that they had better not forget their sweetie on Valentine’s Day, or the consequences would be dire.  I wonder who gets the real credit for that Russell Stover Heart?

Don’t get me wrong, I would not be thrilled to be forgotten on Valentine’s Day by the man I have spent more than my entire adult life with, but I will confess, and this is totally between you and me, that we shouldn’t need a Valentine’s Day at all, and it shouldn’t be just for Sweethearts.  Many people already realize this.

Love is shown throughout the year by acts of kindness and consideration.  Bringing someone a container of soup when they are feeling ill, reminding your honey that their favorite show is on tv when you would be rather watching Steel Magnolias for the fifth time.  I needn’t go on mentioning all the ways people show love.

For a long time we have all included our children onto that list of who must receive a chocolate filled heart, after all,  if we didn’t express our love with candy how would they know we really loved them.  But seriously, lets keep in mind our moms and dads, particularly those who are widowed or divorced.  Sometimes we forget them in our busy lives.  It occurred to me, as an adult, that my mother had not received a Valentine’s surprise in many years.  She never mentioned it, but I stopped to think about it, it made me sad.  She was widowed at thirty-nine.  Flowers began appearing on her door step from that day forward, every Valentine’s Day, until she passed.  That doesn’t mean I am soooo good, it means I should have thought of it much sooner.

I think I need to include all the people we know who might not have a special someone right now.  A note to wish them a happy Valentine’s Day just might make them smile.

Let’s face it, we don’t need Valentine’s Day to let people know we love them, what we need is a reminder to do so.  I imagine that is really what Valentine’s Day is special for.  It’s a great reminder.

Happy Valentine’s Day, yesterday, today, and all of the tomorrows.

Following is the Legend of St. Valentine – copied from History.Com 

The Legend of St. Valentine

The history of Valentine’s Day–and the story of its patron saint–is shrouded in mystery. We do know that February has long been celebrated as a month of romance, and that St. Valentine’s Day, as we know it today, contains vestiges of both Christian and ancient Roman tradition. But who was Saint Valentine, and how did he become associated with this ancient rite?

The Catholic Church recognizes at least three different saints named Valentine or Valentinus, all of whom were martyred. One legend contends that Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young men. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine’s actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death.

Other stories suggest that Valentine may have been killed for attempting to help Christians escape harsh Roman prisons, where they were often beaten and tortured. According to one legend, an imprisoned Valentine actually sent the first “valentine” greeting himself after he fell in love with a young girl–possibly his jailor’s daughter–who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter signed “From your Valentine,” an expression that is still in use today. Although the truth behind the Valentine legends is murky, the stories all emphasize his appeal as a sympathetic, heroic and–most importantly–romantic figure. By the Middle Ages, perhaps thanks to this reputation, Valentine would become one of the most popular saints in England and France.

Origins of Valentine’s Day: A Pagan Festival in February

While some believe that Valentine’s Day is celebrated in the middle of February to commemorate the anniversary of Valentine’s death or burial–which probably occurred around A.D. 270–others claim that the Christian church may have decided to place St. Valentine’s feast day in the middle of February in an effort to “Christianize” the pagan celebration of Lupercalia. Celebrated at the ides of February, or February 15, Lupercalia was a fertility festival dedicated to Faunus, the Roman god of agriculture, as well as to the Roman founders Romulus and Remus.

To begin the festival, members of the Luperci, an order of Roman priests, would gather at a sacred cave where the infants Romulus and Remus, the founders of Rome, were believed to have been cared for by a she-wolf or lupa. The priests would sacrifice a goat, for fertility, and a dog, for purification. They would then strip the goat’s hide into strips, dip them into the sacrificial blood and take to the streets, gently slapping both women and crop fields with the goat hide. Far from being fearful, Roman women welcomed the touch of the hides because it was believed to make them more fertile in the coming year. Later in the day, according to legend, all the young women in the city would place their names in a big urn. The city’s bachelors would each choose a name and become paired for the year with his chosen woman. These matches often ended in marriage.

Valentine’s Day: A Day of Romance

Lupercalia survived the initial rise of Christianity and but was outlawed—as it was deemed “un-Christian”–at the end of the 5th century, when Pope Gelasius declared February 14 St. Valentine’s Day. It was not until much later, however, that the day became definitively associated with love. During the Middle Ages, it was commonly believed in France and England that February 14 was the beginning of birds’ mating season, which added to the idea that the middle of Valentine’s Day should be a day for romance.

Valentine greetings were popular as far back as the Middle Ages, though written Valentine’s didn’t begin to appear until after 1400. The oldest known valentine still in existence today was a poem written in 1415 by Charles, Duke of Orleans, to his wife while he was imprisoned in the Tower of London following his capture at the Battle of Agincourt. (The greeting is now part of the manuscript collection of the British Library in London, England.) Several years later, it is believed that King Henry V hired a writer named John Lydgate to compose a valentine note to Catherine of Valois.

Typical Valentine’s Day Greetings

In addition to the United States, Valentine’s Day is celebrated in Canada, Mexico, the United Kingdom, France and Australia. In Great Britain, Valentine’s Day began to be popularly celebrated around the 17th century. By the middle of the 18th, it was common for friends and lovers of all social classes to exchange small tokens of affection or handwritten notes, and by 1900 printed cards began to replace written letters due to improvements in printing technology. Ready-made cards were an easy way for people to express their emotions in a time when direct expression of one’s feelings was discouraged. Cheaper postage rates also contributed to an increase in the popularity of sending Valentine’s Day greetings.

Americans probably began exchanging hand-made valentines in the early 1700s. In the 1840s, Esther A. Howland began selling the first mass-produced valentines in America. Howland, known as the “Mother of the Valentine,” made elaborate creations with real lace, ribbons and colorful pictures known as “scrap.” Today, according to the Greeting Card Association, an estimated 1 billion Valentine’s Day cards are sent each year, making Valentine’s Day the second largest card-sending holiday of the year. (An estimated 2.6 billion cards are sent for Christmas.) Women purchase approximately 85 percent of all valentines.

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